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Matthew 1.18-2.1a, 3-14, 19-23

Thinking About Fatherhood

  • The Bible affirms fatherhood
  • God reveals himself as Father
  • God chose Joseph to be the (step) father of Jesus

1.18-19 Joseph was Righteous

  • In the Bible, Righteousness refers to Torah observance but more fundamentally, right relationships

Prov. 29.7 says, “The righteous person knows the rights of the poor.”

Prov. 12.10 says, “The righteous cares about his animal’s health.”

  • Joseph had the right to condemn Mary but sought to protect her dignity
  • Healthy fathers are servants of righteousness

1.20-21 Joseph was Spiritual

  • Zechariah didn't believe despite an angelic visitation but Joseph only needed a dream
  • Biblically, men are the spiritual leaders in the home and community (this does not negate the role of women!)
  • Biblical spirituality is practical as well as mystical.
  • Reciting prayers, meditating on Scripture, practical service.
  • Healthy fathers are spiritual leaders.

1.24-25 Joseph Served

  • Parenthood is sacrifice!
  • Healthy fathers make sacrifices to serve their families.

2.13-14 Joseph Protected

  • Joseph's protection enabled prophecy to be fulfilled
  • Protecting your family begins with being safe for your family
    • Christian men must not be physically, emotionally or sexually abusive.
    • We need to learn to control angry outbursts.
  • We must protect our families spiritually.
    • The enemy wants our families!
    • Pray for our wives and children, disciple them, shield them from harm.
  • Healthy fathers keep their families safe, spiritually and physically.

2.22-23 Joseph Settled Down

  • Many people are driven in a way that damages their self and their relationships.
  • God does call parents to pursue Kingdom ambition but also calls us to settle down
  • In settling, Joseph provided a stable, godly home in which to raise the Messiah.
  • Healthy fathers create a settled environment for their families.

How to Father Like a Boss

  • Healthy fathers have a servant heart.

Discussion Questions

  • Re-read the passage in a couple of different translations
  • Is there anything you don’t understand?
  • Can you think of other principles or stories in the Bible about good or bad fathers?
  • Have you seen particularly good or bad  role models for fathers?
  • Many of these principles apply to all Christians:
    • What do they mean for you?
    • What makes them unique in fathers?
  • What is God saying to you?
  • What are you going to do as a result?